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If you still want to pursue a softmod for your Wii, it is possible to do so. The pre-3.0 Wiis have too many IOSes missing to allow for the standard 3.1-4.1 softmod process to work right away. The best course of action is to allow a game disc to update the Wii. Most game discs will update the system to either 3.1 or 3.4. Following a successful game disc update, you can now follow the 3.1-4.1 tutorial. With regard to your question on updating to 4.1 and avoiding 4.2, that is accomplished in the softmod tutorial by keeping WiiConnect24 OFF during the softmod, but especially critical during the update to 4.1 via the Internet (Step 4 in the tutorial). Enjoy your stay with us.