WOOOHOOO i've got my system menu back!
I downloaded NUSD_v13Beta grabbed system menu RVL-WiiSystemmenu-v386.wad
Used System ID: 0000000100000002 v386 saved WAD. Copied to SD.
However, this time i was patient as it was hanging on 102 (as previous but i kept pressing buttons in earlier attempts hence the fail) and came back and it was installed.
Maybe the others as suggested by Tealc would have worked!
Feel like a dumb@$$ noob but was v. stressed.
Thanks to all who posted.
Now lets see if i can update to 4.1?????